If you’ve been following me, you know that I teach that underneath unproductive behavior is a need that’s not getting met. Also when we’re not getting our needs met by our partner, we can find ways of meeting those needs ourselves, so that we can ask others for what we need in a loving way, instead of a demanding way.
Lately I was finding myself looking at clothes on the internet, and I don’t need more clothes! My closet is full, and I’m trying to save money! So I asked my Inner Guidance what need I was meeting by looking at clothes, and it was having a creative outlet. I asked what other creative outlet was good for me and I heard my inner child exclaim, “I want to learn an instrument!”
I’ve had a ukulele sitting in my closet for a few years, that I hadn’t touched, so I took it down and I fell in love with it! It’s been such a rewarding break to play music, and my inner child feels so happy and joyful when I play!
I’m sharing a video of me playing here, not because I think I’m good (I’ve only been playing a little over a week!) but because I want to give you permission to let your inner child play!
So how bout you? Is there a behavior you are doing that you could get curious about how to meet the need in a better way? Or is there a need that you want your partner to meet (quality time, affection, attention, play) that you could find a way of meeting yourself?
Let me know in the comments below 🙂
When you meet your own needs, that doesn’t mean you don’t ask your partner for more of what you want. But when you’re filled up with self love, then you’re much more inviting and enrolling when you ask! I’ve been having a blast playing the ukulele for my partner and it’s a new way for us to connect.